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The highest level of God winks is the appearance of the beloved dead person in some kind of visible form. It is an apparition and most of the reports I receive say that the apparition is translucent, not thick like a real person but definitely visible. These visitations from the other side when accompanied by verbal communications are the highest form of God wink I have encountered (and personally experienced).

Q: I had a couple of "winks". The year after our son was killed in an accident, it was our anniversary and seven months later. I was on our bedside phone when something caught my eye sticking out of a book in our little bookcase! When I pulled it out, it was a check made out to me two months before he passed!

Now this spot is something I saw every day, the shelf faced the bed, been dusted, and it never showed up before! It made me smile, I said, "I guess he couldn't get to Hallmark"!

I also had a "visit" from him, about a year or two after. It wasn't really a dream, I saw him in his bathrobe, hovering near the top of the doorway of his brother’s room, I smelled him, he hugged me and said he was OK! Been hoping for another for 30 years! Another incident at work! A new employee who never knew him came to me with a dream! She said he came to her and told her that he knew she worked with me, and to tell me that he was OK! So these are my big "winks." – (From C)

A: God bless you on receiving such a powerful wink. The bond between you and your son must have been extremely strong and loving. I have no idea why some of us are visited with God winks and others remain patiently waiting. Knowing that is way above my pay grade, but you, my dear C, are among the lucky ones not just because your son’s spirit visited you but because he did so in such an unmistakable manner.

The important thing – the most important thing – is not the form of the wink but the message. In my experience having and reporting God winks, the message is almost always the same. The message is, “I love you and I am OK.” The purpose of that message in my opinion is not only to provide comfort to the mourners but also to provide encouragement to them to go on with their lives. Mourners often feel that continuing with life rituals is like a betrayal of the dead. Nothing could be further from the truth. Our ability to laugh again and connect with friends and family again is proof that the love the dead person gave in this life was intended to grow into a new life without them. God bless you and don’t cash the check!

Q: My Dad died 20 years ago. Before he passed, we had some wonderful talks. One day, on the advice of a friend who was a hospital chaplain, I asked my Dad to give me a sign after he got to Heaven. Dad was an electrician by trade. With this in mind, I asked him to flash the lights as a signal. He thought that was something he couldn't do. After his passing, my brother came by. He said the strangest thing just happened. The dome light inside his brand-new car would not go out for more than a half hour. Then, it went out. I told him my story and he was filled with tears! – (From J)

A: Tender story of an electronic wink. However, be careful. The same thing happened to me until I realized that my car lights were set to automatic delay. Check your owner’s manual and look for the topic, “How to turn off dome light God Winks.”

Q: After my dad’s death I purchased a Kousa Dogwood tree and planted it along the path to my front door. I asked my father to send me a sign to let me know that he is aware that the tree is a gift to him. The next June, the tree blossomed for the first time. There were 13 flowers each day, no more, no less. I knew this was a sign from my father. My father was born on a Friday the 13th in November and always told us that 13 was a lucky number for our family. I thank God for this loving wink. – (From J)

A: God bless your tree and your wink. You may be the only person I know who counts tree blossoms. It is a very subtle wink but its flowers have filled your soul with fragrance and hope.

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